“Anal intercourse”-When we hear these words, we are often embarrassed and blush with shame. But it doesn’t have to be that way! Learn all about clichés, lust, and tips for your first anal sex in our article!

For women it is often a completely taboo topic, and for some men the thought of it turns them on a lot. That’s why many women do decide to have this kind of sex, but often the clichés ruin everything. So how to properly practice anal sex?

Anal intercourse can be very arousing for both partners, because many nerve endings converge in the anus. The anus is very narrow, so the stimulation seems intense. In men, the prostate can be massaged in this way. Consequently, anal sex can be either passive or active for both sexes.

But who says that women want to fall to the ground with shame when it comes to anal sex, and don’t feel desire and passion at all? And who says that all men think that active anal sex is great and that passive sex is the province of homosexuals? Of course, there are plenty of women who enjoy intercourse in the “back room,” and just as many men who don’t like it. That’s why we decided to find out what men and women think about anal sex – active or passive.

Most men like anal sex.

Surprisingly or not, most men and women like anal sex – both active and passive. Among women, it is 40% and among men, 51%, they actively and passively enjoy anal sex.

And in the second aspect, the results of the survey diverge greatly. Women rank second in preference for passive anal sex (24%), while 33% of men actively enjoy this sexual practice. For women, the answer “No, I do not like anal sex” is in third place. For men, this answer is in fourth place at 6%. In last place is a small proportion of women (11%) who prefer only active anal sex. The same number of ladies don’t know for sure if they like “back door” intercourse. 5% of men also have no opinion on the matter.

So, what have we learned from this? Anal sex is a hot topic for many people and enriches their sex life. Thirds do not seem to like this form of sex very much. Generalizing statements by gender is quite difficult. Perhaps this stereotypical, gendered view of anal sex is outdated. Either way, no one should be ashamed.

“Everyone says anal sex is great. Will we try it?”

If this is the first time your partner asks this question, a moment of shock is inevitable! Who are these ALL people anyway? Don’t rush to do something you don’t want to do. Don’t allow yourself to be pushed around. But you can allow yourself to ponder whether or not you should try it. Because you might enjoy it. You probably start thinking right away: Doesn’t it hurt? Isn’t it messy? What can it do? How will it make me feel: Isn’t it like a porn star or a homosexual?

Does anal sex hurt?

It really does, but if you do it wrong. Before your partner starts, you should first practice with a toy to get used to the sensation. Otherwise, frustration is inevitable, and the process may end before it begins. Anal toys are available in different sizes.

Start with the smallest size and experiment with it in the bathroom. This way you can get used to the sensation, and at the same time your anus will stretch. It’s a good idea to do this before making contact with your partner. Always use water-based lubricant and latex condoms. The anus itself is not able to moisturize, so lubrication is necessary. Important: do not use aids or sex toys, which can disappear in the intestine. Choose only accessories for anal play.

Does the anus wear out from anal sex?

This is a very common myth! Those who often engage in anal sex know that over time it becomes easier and easier to do it. Because a habit arises, and the passive partner relaxes more. This makes it easier for the active partner to penetrate. The sphincter muscle is completely unaffected by the “invasion” and does its job normally.

Isn’t anal sex dirty?

The bowels must be emptied: couples who practice anal intercourse frequently or regularly use what is called an anal shower – an enema. It works like a pump pumping water and flushes the rectum. However, fecal particles may still remain in it. Always use a condom to protect against disease and infection, as well as for hygienic reasons.

Important: Your partner should not penetrate the vagina after anal sex, because intestinal bacteria can cause fungus and infections.

What are the benefits for me?

When you indulge yourself with an anal toy, you will see how much pleasure anal sex can bring. Although you may not have an anal orgasm. However, with simultaneous clitoral stimulation, you can reach the highest point of pleasure. Especially if you choose the right position. And if you caress your partner with an anal toy, you can simultaneously stimulate his penis with your hand or mouth.

Anal sex – only for porn actors and homosexuals?

First of all: don’t feel any false shame. Anything that pleases both partners is allowed. Anal sex has long gone beyond porn and homosexual intercourse. There are gay men who don’t like anal sex at all, and heterosexuals who like it a lot – even with themselves. It’s a matter of personal feelings, not sexual orientation.

If your man likes anal sex, you don’t have to worry that he is actually homosexual or that he has homoerotic fantasies (but anything is allowed in fantasies!). Although the anus is not really meant for sex, many people find anal sex to enrich their sex life.

Anal sex – the most important tips for getting started

• Hygiene before sex is a must.
• Prepare condoms, lube, anal toys and more. Everything you need for foreplay and the act itself.
• Relax: you can relax only when you have calmed your body and released muscle tension beforehand.
• If it does not work right away, maybe it will work next time: do not increase the pressure.
• Your partner should stimulate your crotch and anus, and stretch your anus beforehand, for example with a finger or an anal toy. The bigger his penis, the more time you should spend on foreplay. Tongue caresses can be very arousing.
  When you are ready and feel you want to try it, gently let him start, but only with plenty of lubricant and a condom.